Hey guys! Today I thought I would try something out that I've never done and it's an advice post; while I didn't get sent these questions in, there are some topics that I have struggled with and know others do too so why not spread some positivity this afternoon- or whenever you're reading this! Quick warning- this post is quite long and extremely rambly, so if you're not into that, this isn't for you!
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How can you stop caring about what others think/are saying about you?
This was a biggie for me back in the day, all I wanted to do was fit in and have everyone liking me- something I didn't achieve, needless to mention. I think it comes over time and even now, if I've heard someone has been spreading shit about me- detective Gabija's out there to suss the truth out! I think the biggest issue for me, was potentially having Social Anxiety. I'll throw it out there, I'm not diagnosed but my symptoms matched perfectly and I still get them now. I was that one kid who never put their hand up because they were afraid they'd get it wrong and everyone would take the piss out of them. Okay we're getting a bit off topic here, but I think it takes time and you really need to accept yourself for who you are and focus on it. Don't focus on other people, focus on yourself! If other people are saying how you shouldn't wear so much makeup, for example, don't listen to them! It's your life and if that's what makes you get out of bed every morning- go for it! There can be people that don't like your makeup- but there will be people that don't mind it, or like it! You just have to learn that's it better to be loved for who you are by a few people, than liked by everyone for somebody you're not!
How can I deal with 'haters' and negative people?
Very much related to the first question- I always try to ignore these people because usually, they don't know the full picture and think they can comment on your life without knowing the full story. Take my blog for example, I don't mind if you don't like my blog- blogs aren't everyone's cup of tea and especially because my niche might not be what you're interested in. But if you sit there wasting you time telling me that I wear too much makeup or that I'm too fat etc... I mean I'd just ignore you, you're wasting your time by trying to get people down and you shouldn't show them it gets to you because they'll stop trying to poke a reaction out of you. If you hear something about you, just ignore it- you don't need to overthink it and let the negativity drag you down. If it's bullying, however, you need to let somebody know and deal with it! You shouldn't suffer in silence with anything- trust me.
How can I become confident with who I am?
We're all guilty, we all have things we hate about ourselves- whether it's inside or on the outside! (Now, I'm not too comfortable with my outside either- but I'm working on it...) But this is very similar to my last answer, and it comes with time. I think that it's better to be loved by a few people for who you are than liked by everyone for who you're not. Life isn't a competition so you should stop comparing yourself to other girls or boys who are 'perfect' (and I assure you, they're not) and focus on yourself. Try writing down a list of things you don't like about yourself and when you're finished try writing down a list of things you do like about yourself. Keep the list and whenever you're having a bad day- don't look at the bad list and look at the good list. You could also keep a list of things you're grateful for and that really puts things into perspective. So you may not be a size 6, but you've got lovely eyelashes, amazing hair etc... There's a lot more good than there is bad- and let's not keep this all about our appearance! Also, if there's something you really hate, you can always change it. I don't mean to go starve yourself or anything like that- but if you're shy and want to be more confident, you can always try something new, speak to new people, maybe put your hand up in class. There's a lot you can do if you're really down and it won't go away! I mean, to this day I hate my resting bitch face as unless we're uber close- you've probably thought I've given you the dirtiest looks, which were obviously unintentional!
Oh and I'm sure you're beautiful anyway- so you have nothing to worry about!
Oh and I'm sure you're beautiful anyway- so you have nothing to worry about!
How can I overcome my regret?
Where do I begin... if you haven't read my honesty post (linked below because I'm that shameless self-promoter you hate) this might not make as much sense but boy oh boy do I have a lot of regrets. I'm a huge over thinker- I'll lay there before going to bed and get all these flashbacks of every shit thing I've done. It's not nice. I think you just have to tell yourself that you've overcome that, from that experience you have grown as a person and won't do it again. Now I don't know specifically what is you regret and I'll never ask you to tell me- but what I found helped when I was younger was keeping this 'secret diary', oh I'm sure you know what I'm talking about, and I wrote down my regrets whenever I started to overthink. I found that when I did that, it felt like a weight had been lifted off my shoulders. If this concerns you hurting a person, I would go up to them and apologize and just talk to them- I mean I would now but really, don't have any contact I know to these people. Everyone gets over things eventually- from your ex boyfriend to someone eating your portion of ice cream. Okay those aren't as serious, in some ways (I'm talking about the ice cream) but you just have to let things go knowing everything happens for a reason and that you have matured because of it.