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The Extroverted Introvert

12/7/2017

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Like many others, for the majority of my life (well... for as long as I knew what this word even meant) I labelled myself as an introvert- nothing new, especially not in a society surrounded by just that: labels. Whether it be sexuality, gender, personality, introvert or extrovert in today's post... we seem to have some sort of obsession with attaching a label and and adjective to ourselves- but maybe that's just me, correct me if I'm wrong! In today's post, I'll be talking about intro and extroversion, the differences, and my recent experiences; so, if you're just as fascinated about this topic as I am, it's time to scroll down!
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As I mentioned above, for as long as I knew what the word meant, I categorised myself as an introvert. But what is an introvert? According to the Oxford Dictionary, a shy, reticent person- contrasting to the extrovert, an outgoing, socially confident person. Me? I'd never have thought to categorise myself as an outgoing or socially confident person; for as long as I can remember, I was the girl who always got told to put her hand up more in class and that I don't speak enough- to this day... true to an extent. The longer I dwell on it, though, the longer I realise that in some ways... I tried to keep myself in that label. Surely I couldn't go from the muted mouse to an outspoken and somewhat obnoxious Gabija overnight? Perhaps not, but what I wasn't realising was that it's okay to be shy, and it's okay to like your own company... but it's also okay to love to socialise and spend time with others- and get the odd 'cabin fever' every now and then.

That's the thing with introversion, it's often mistaken as plain shyness- when introversion is more about enjoying your own company as well as that of somebody else's, whereas an extrovert adores the company of others. It works both ways though, you can be confident and be an introvert, or shy and be an extrovert who cannot stand staying at home by themselves and love the company of others. Extroverts are stimulated in social situations, and introverts can become over-stimulated in social situations, but shy people... well from personal experience, I can tell you that shy people can desperately want to communicate with others but sometimes don't know how, or are afraid to. So, say you love to hang around with your close friends but get anxious around a group of people you don't get on with, there's no reason why you can't be a shy extrovert.

​Too often, we are told there's introversion and extroversion- but what about the in between? It took me a while to realise that this even existed, and what inspired this post was a conversation between my friend and I- where we spoke about how we were outgoing introverts and shy extroverts, and guess what? That's okay! To that friend, thank you for highlighting an issue I never thought to speak about on my blog- and I don't know if it's just me here, but I feel we are often told the labels without being told the in-between and that it's okay to not fit a label perfectly. After all, it's just a label am I right? 

​Well, that's the end of my short Wednesday ramble- let me know your thoughts in the comments below and see you all soon for another post!

O T H E R  P O S T S  Y O U  M A Y  L I K E . . .

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Nikita link
13/7/2017 06:49:24

Wow! Thank you for talking about this. I completely understand what you mean and I don't think that we should specifically label people into one category. As humans, we are a mix of many things and that's what makes us special. xx Nikita

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Gabija
15/7/2017 17:43:20

Definitely, I feel despite more acceptance and awareness in society... we still put pressure on ourselves and others to have a label- and it's nice to remember and remind that we shouldn't have to!

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Steph // Steph's World link
13/7/2017 09:00:14

Oh - My - Gosh! This post is exactly me. I did the myers briggs test and came out as introvert but never looked at it this way. I am not a shy person really, but I do get very overwhelmed in social situations, so much sometimes that I have to leave. Fortunately (or unfortunately) me BF is the exact same.

Steph xx
www.stephsworld.com

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Gabija
15/7/2017 17:45:40

That's exactly how I felt! Everybody always told me I'm an introvert but I never felt that way personally- assuring to know I'm not the only one!

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Kayleigh Zara
14/7/2017 01:02:11

I totally feel like this sometimes! I think it's possible to have qualities from both types. Thanks for sharing x

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Gabija
15/7/2017 17:46:19

Definitely, and I don't think that those possibilities are spoken about enough!

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Alisha Valerie link
16/7/2017 12:23:46

This was such a wonderful honest and open read babe, I admite I feel like this too sometimes. Thank you for sharing 🌸💗✨

With love, Alisha Valerie. x
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Gabija
16/7/2017 16:04:15

Thank you, I'm glad you enjoyed it! x

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Alice link
16/7/2017 16:55:16

Can totally relate to this. I've been told I come across as quiet before but I don't feel particularly shy and I'm happy going to new places on my own. I guess there's such a thing as quiet confidence, and not being super-loud doesn't always mean you're insecure.

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Gabija
16/7/2017 18:15:31

Definitely! I feel exactly the same way, I'm completely happy in my own skin and begin 'quiet' doesn't affect that in any way!

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Liam link
16/7/2017 20:33:09

I really enjoyed reading this, Gabija! Really insightful and surprisingly relatable. I would describe myself as an introvert mostly and you've really put into words some of the things I experience. Great piece!

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Gabija
16/7/2017 21:03:28

Thank you, super glad you enjoyed it! It's something that's always affected me and never something I'd talk about haha!

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Brynn link
16/7/2017 21:41:18

I feel like I'm definitely somewhere between introvert and extrovert and I totally get what you are writing about in this post xx Brynn

https://www.brynnieblogs.com

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Gabija
17/7/2017 10:00:50

I'm the exact same, glad you liked it!

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Natalie Benton link
16/7/2017 23:12:15

What a thought-provoking post!! I feel as though I am mostly an extrovert - I love social situations and engaging with others - but I also love my own company and sometimes enjoy just listening to others. People will ask what's wrong with me when I'm quiet, but sometimes I just like watching everyone do their thing and have their say. Great post :)

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Gabija
17/7/2017 10:02:08

Thank you! I've had the exact same experience, I have moments when I'm more chatty but also times I want to myself- and that's okay, which I didn't get before!

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Alice link
17/7/2017 07:47:10

I definitely feel this on a personal level, I think I flip between the two depending on how I'm feeling! And I totally agree with not having to conform to a label, after all we change and develop as human beings literally all the time, who's to tell you who you should be?!
Alice Xx
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Gabija
17/7/2017 10:03:23

Definitely, it's been something continually on my mind lately- what's the point in it and why do we do it to ourselves and others?

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Cassandra link
27/6/2018 03:06:10

Great post! I would definitely agree in calling myself that. I tell my friends all the time. It's nothing personal. I just enjoy my company sometimes more than being with a group of people.

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Gabija
27/6/2018 15:19:21

Thank you! I'm exactly the same- but sometimes... it feels as though there's still a negative image surrounding it, where if you do want to have a night to yourself, you're 'boring' or a 'bad friend' or whatnot; hopefully, this is something that'll change with time!

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