Body Confidence. For somebody who was never fully happy with their body for 14 years, it feels both rewarding and yet also nerve wracking to write this post on this topic. It's a given that growing up in a world full of ideals, a world which tells you what you should look like and be, isn't and wasn't the easiest thing as an impressionable young girl. Body confidence was a huge issue for me growing up, and still remains an issue on the odd bad day, but I felt it was important to come here and speak to you about this topic- which holds a close place in my heart. Grab yourself a cup of tea, coffee, whatever fits your fancies, and carry on reading!
Body confidence has to come from within, from you- not from your boyfriend or comments on your latest selfie
If there's one message I want you to take away today, it's this- body confidence has to come from you, and you only. Of course, it's nice to get the odd compliment, but you shouldn't base your confidence around others. Growing up, there was nothing I cared more about that the way I was perceived by others: do they think I'm ugly? Why don't they like me? Do my ears stick out too much? Am I too fat? And so on... Every time I received a nasty comment from somebody, it kept playing and playing in my mind and didn't leave me alone. It was only until last year, that I realised... not everybody is going to like you, and that's okay. Not everybody will like your physical appearance, and that's also okay.
Everybody (unless you're an identical twin) looks different, we weren't made to look alike and there's nobody on this planet that's identical to you- isn't that cool?!
One of the key things that lead me to becoming more confident was when I sat down one evening and thought of this concept: nobody looks like you, and nobody was made to look like you. You can either sit there and waste your time wishing you were somebody else, or you can take who you are and own it. Somebody may not like your nose, or your ears, or the way you do your makeup- but so what? Confidence shines from within, as does a beautiful personality (which, by the way, is a thousand times more important than physical appearance!).
Give yourself a break & stop putting yourself down!
Something I aimed to do last year was to stop putting myself down (easier said than done... I'm aware!)- get yourself into the habit and you'll flourish! Instead of looking in the mirror and pointing out 'flaws', find something you love about yourself and focus on that instead: think, 'I may not have... or be ..., but I have a beautiful personality and ..., and I'm going to rock that!'.
Fake it 'till you make it!
Though it may seem like odd advice to give, it can work wonders- fake confidence until you have confidence! Even if you're down, whack on a smile, walk the walk and see the outcome yourself!
Take care of yourself
When you're feeling down about yourself, it's easy to shy away from the mirrors and forget about self-care altogether- but don't let this happen! Making the effort to look and feel good often boosts our self esteem and confidence, so treat yourself to a pamper night, eat well and feel good!
It takes time, you're not just going to click your fingers and become completely self-assured.
As sad as it may be, body confidence isn't something you can click your fingers at and gain. Body confidence was a 14 year long journey for me, and to this day... it doesn't come without ups and downs. I'll be honest, for me... body confidence just clicked one day, I had a realisation and could never act the same again.
Remember, confidence doesn't equal cockiness
Don't be afraid to be confident, or to be labelled as 'cocky' just because you're happy with who you are. I've done a whole post about this topic here, so I won't ramble on too much, but it's important to know that confidence and cockiness are far apart- so don't let anything stop you from becoming your best self!